Often many of us are looking for ways to get unstuck.
We can be stuck in an “I don’t know what to eat” rut.
I’m stuck in an “I don’t know where I’m going in my life” rut.
Caught up in a “what’s my next career move” rut.
“How do I handle my money” rut.
Procrastinating on “how to market my business” rut.
Overwhelmed with “How do I lead this team” rut.
The list can go on and on.
This week I have pulled together a small selection of my favourite resources to help with topical ruts coming up for people in my business and life.
For the “I don’t know where I’m going with my life’ rut.
My absolute favourite book of the pandemic and one I gifted to all my clients was Glennon Doyles Untamed. I LOVE this book. I have been through it at least four times (both read and audio!).
The overarching theme is – Stop Pleasing, Start Living.
This book will shake your brain and make your soul scream. I am so ready for myself after reading this book! ― Adele
I believe this book is helpful to all humans. Step into your power and live your truth.
For these moments, I also like Wild by Cheryl Strayed – I’ve sent this book to friends who have needed to know they can go in a very different direction. This book came into my life when I lost a parent, so it was profound, grief baring and hopeful all at the same time.
For the “How do I lead these people” moments?
The regular go-to book on this one for me and one I turn to often is Daring to Lead by Brené Brown.
This book keeps me accountable to my people – both in my career and at home. I long had a gut feeling that having a title did not automatically make you a good leader. I don’t always have the answer to a pickle we may be in – we are not supposed to have all the answers. This book helped me see that my role is to thrive by quietly supporting people and organisations to Stop. Pause. Think and Act. Leading them to know it’s ok to slow things down to speed things up, that we can have better outcomes with collaboration and emotional intelligence. Help people realise they have the choice of choosing what works for them.
For the “How do I improve my money mindset” rut.
A simple and great go-to book for me is You Are a Badass at Making Money: Master the Mindset of Wealth by Jen Sincero.
Money talk can be very controversial. We often get told it’s not polite to discuss money. In my The Boardroom Community, we celebrate and normalise the money conversation. The community shares as much of their money story as they are comfortable with and is encouraged to dig deep to unpeel the challenging money mindset layers that keep them stuck.
It’s a practical book that delves into the notion that our bank account balances can reflect and mirror our beliefs around money. This book is a good revisit recommendation for me. Old beliefs can creep back in, especially when things are busy and fast-moving.
My own belief is women need to curate financial independence regardless of relationship status. I like We Should All Be Millionaires: Change Your Thinking, Build Bank, and Claim Your Independence by Rachel Rogers for this very reason.
This book delves deep into money-busting beliefs, normalising that we all don’t know what the f*ck we are sometimes doing. That much of the previous financial advice is steeped in unhelpful mind traps that are no longer helpful in days modern society.
For the “My mental health is feeling shacky” moments.
First up, I will always advocate you see a therapist. Therapy is my love language and life-changing if you are prepared to throw yourself in and do the work. However, THIS BOOK – Why Has Nobody Told Me This Before? by Dr Julie Smith.
What can I say about this book – You can pick it up in the dark moments to pull you through. You can delve in on days when you want to know more; it’s a book for all mind health seasons. I love the direct approach with kindness and the actionable tools you can introduce to support you.
It covers a range of topics from managing criticism and low mood to breaking negative patterns – it is a must-have for any household and office.
That’s my round-up for today – Do let us know your recommendations for life-moment- ruts in the comments below.
